Busting Excuses: Stop Avoiding Boudoir.
Let’s be real with each other.
There are a thousand excuses why we don’t do the things we should.
It’s too hard.
We’re afraid.
We don’t think it’ll work out.
But Why should we be letting ourselves fall into our own traps??
today, we’re going to be busting excuses about why you aren’t doing a boudoir session when you should be.
“I’m not skinny enough for boudoir.”
Excuse me, baby squirrel, boudoir isn’t just for “skinny girls”. Boudoir is a luxury experience for bodies of all shapes and sizes. yes, all shapes and sizes. cheyenne gil and teri hofford are two perfect examples of what body inclusivity is. they inspire me every single day to show women the beauty of being whatever size we are and embracing our curves, our fat, our chub, our foopas, whatever you want to call it. fat is not a dirty word. fat just is. our shape and fluffiness do not define our worth, nor does it define whether or not we’re allowed to love ourselves. shut out the haters, focus on you, and book your boudoir session with somebody who embraces and loves bodies as they are, not what society thinks they should be.
“It’s too expensive, I can’t spent that much money on myself.”
nay, nay, bailey sarian and i say. we’re so quick to drop hundreds or even thousands of dollars on others because we believe they deserve it or they need it. we believe kids deserve every last penny we can spent on them because their kids and it’ll make them happy. we believe our spouses deserve the best tools and gadgets to make their lives easier because they provide so much for us in the way of love, support, and handyman fixes. we believe our friends deserve the world because of how much love they’ve given us all of our lives. but guess what boo, you deserve that kind of love too. you deserve to give yourself as much love and confidence and happiness as you give to others. I don’t use the word deserve very often, but we do deserve to spoil ourselves when we have the means. with prepayment plans, every single session is easily affordable to anyone willing to take the leap and shoot their shot!
“I’ll book a shoot when I lose the weight.”
okay, story time. I said the same thing about my first boudoir shoot. I said, okay kristen. if we lose 30 pounds in six months, we’ll book the boudoir shoot. they say losing ten pounds a month is healthy, right? easy peasy? wroooooong. i forgot to factor in my life. i forgot to factor in school and trying to get a business off the ground. i forgot about my emotional health and, mostly importantly, i forgot how much i hate the gym when it’s an obligation. it made me want to go less. finally, a month before my session, i kicked my own ass and started working out. I sure as shit didn’t lose 30 pounds in a month, I maybe lost six. then i almost cancelled my session because “i didn’t do enough to lose weight” as if i had to deserve treating myself?? nope. nuts to that. I went anyway and boudoir quite literally changed my life. so, no, my darling girl. you don’t need to lose weight before your boudoir session. You just need to realize that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. you just need to know that you can do this any way you want to and that i’ll be here every step of the way to make sure you leave totally happy with what you have.
“People will think I’m trashy or that I’m a whore.”
people, excuse my french, can suck a dick. you are not a whore for enjoying your body naked, curvy, and vivacious. you are not trashy for posting images like that online. you are not anything less then a stellar human being who worships her body like a temple and gives it all the love and compassion it deserves. far too many people profit off the idea that a woman who enjoys her body and enjoys feeling sexy makes her trashy. if you embrace your body as is, how many companies would cease to make millions off of our insecurities? remember, every time you feel insecure and buy makeup products or consider lipo, you make a fat white man richer. give yourself the power to feel good about you without the weight of somebody else’s opinions.
“it’s too risque for me, I wouldn’t be comfortable.”
boudoir isn’t just about nudity and lace and sexy, provocative poses. boudoir emcompasses a wide variety of styles. I’ve had clients show up in full-body pajama sets. no joke. and they looked amazing!! i have girls who use the sheet to hide parts of their bodies they aren’t comfortable displaying. believe me, we can easily make sexy and sensual feel comfortable by exposing very little (but very strategic) skin! skin you’d show anybody at any time, any day! work with me here. tell me your concerns and I’ll make them disappear. Show me what you’re comfortable with and I will deliver above and beyond. Never assume we can’t make it work because, with a little brain power and ingenuity, we can do literally anything we put our minds to.
there are at least a dozen more ways you could talk yourself out of doing a boudoir shoot. no doubt that you’re thinking of them right now. throw those excuses in the garbage where they belong. You are better than that.
i believe in you. and I believe that when you’re ready, you’re going to take the jump and you’ll be EXHILARATED by the fall. And don’t worry, I’ll be there to catch you the whole time.
xoxo.